Changing Others in Relationships

When facing conflict and disagreements in a relationship the most common feeling can be wanting to change the person that you are with, however, there are important points that you need to consider when this notion comes to mind.

During times when you experience painful emotions, or disagreements, within a relationship, it can seem like your focus needs to be directed towards changing the other person, so that you can feel better.

In some situations it is possible to assist the person whom you are with in the process of growth and transformation, provided that this person has consented to, and is truly willing to, change. However, it is often the case that change needs to come from you, before you reach the position in which you can feel better.

When you try to change another person's behaviour in order to make them fit in with your relationship ideals, and vice versa, this is a form of manipulation, even if you think that what you are doing is for the good of the other person. We are all born with free will, and this means that another person has a right to make their own choices and decide how they wish to live their life.

In order to maintain a healthy relationship, it is important to understand and respect the person whom you are with, if you do not find this to be possible then you will be unable to truly love this person. If the actions of another person is causing you pain, then this shows that there is something within you that is not appreciating, or respecting, how this person is being within your relationship.

Owning your thoughts and emotions is important to both your spiritual health and understanding your position within a relationship. By owning your emotions you can become empowered to change how you feel for the better, or take action to change the position that you are in.

Relationship cords (or chords) can become toxic when there is an excess of negative emotion being channelled into the connection from either person involved, and there is a lack of ability to manage emotions within either person. This can be due to a lack of spiritual alignment.

By becoming more spiritually in tune with yourself, you can identify the deeper reason behind any negative emotions that you are experiencing, and move into greater mental and emotional balance. This way you cease to channel negative emotions towards the person whom you feel is hurting you, and avoid energetically contributing towards the formation of a toxic relationship cord.

Relationship cords become toxic when there is an excess of negative emotion being channelled into the connection from either person involved, and there is a lack of ability to manage emotions within either person.

Identifying the thought patterns and beliefs that are holding you to the experience of negative emotion, will provide you with the path to emotional freedom, decrease the negative frequency of your relationship cord connection, and enable you to feel good within yourself again.